• Jackie Capers-Brown

12 Questions that Can Help You "Get Unstuck"

Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers. ~Anthony Robbins

Life is comprised of endings and beginnings; the good and the not-so-good. Joy and pain. “When we learn to distinguish between pain and suffering, we discover that sometimes pain is a call to action. At other times, we must simply accept our losses and tragedies. In either case, pain comes and goes. Suffering grows out of our reaction to the original pain”, writes Jack Kornfield, author of A Wise Heart.


When I first read the above passage, it evoked several memories of past experiences and how I prolonged mental and emotional suffering because of my reaction of resistance to the truth of my reality and the “clinging” to beliefs about how I thought the situation “should have been.” Reading this book the first and every time since then continues to bless my heart and stimulate Aha! Moments.


I have always been fascinated with the power of questions. I have learned to use them in my personal and professional life to get to the heart of situations, so that I could move forward with greater clarity about my next best steps.


I use questions with clients and in my training, coaching and mastermind programs to empower them to get right to the heart of a matter. They create awareness about a situation that you can no longer deny. They evoke self-reflections that stimulate action that transform minds, hearts and lives.


If you feel stuck in any area of your life, the following empowering questions will help you get to the heart of the matter, so that you can break camp from unhealthy thoughts and emotions undermining your capacity to claim your sense of power and navigate your way forward.


I highly recommend that you write down your answers to the following questions to increase the likelihood that you experience the awareness of the physical sensation of the emotion influencing your answer in your body.


Our emotions have a presence in our physical body that is often overlooked or dismissed. when we begin to pause and pay attention to the emotions that our beliefs, thoughts and actions activate in our body, we experience what is referred to as "felt-perception" which resonates within the core of our being and has a greater chance of evoking us into action versus just "mental perception",


1. What is the streaming storyline (mind chatter) that is influencing the narrative that you tell yourself and others as to why you remain stuck in this present area of your life?

2. How is the nature (positive or negative) of your self-talk helping or hurting your motivation to take action to bring about change in this area of your life?

3. When was the last time, you paid attention to your self-talk and its effect on you? Would you say that your self-talk is dominated by what you believe, by what other people have told you about yourself or by other external influences, i.e. religious beliefs, your family of origin or a group you belong to?

4. How has your self-talk influenced beliefs you have about what you deserve to experience in this area of your life in which you feel stuck?

5. In the next 24 hours, pay attention to your self-talk. Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. How often would you  allow others to speak to you in the same manner that you speak to yourself?

6. Words have power. Your words have the power to create life or death. In the last 24-hour time period, what percentage of the words that you speak to yourself and others nourishes your wellbeing and the wellbeing of others?

7. When was the last time you questioned why you believe what you do about your sense of self-worth and ability? Could it be possible that the individuals that influenced self-limiting beliefs about yourself was lacking in the capacity to inspire and motivate you to express your best self? If so, don’t you think it’s time that you stop believing them, and begin to believe in yourself?

8. How have your beliefs about the way this area of life “should be” prevented you from accepting “what is” so that you can tap into the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energies necessary to create “what can be”?

9. Are you okay with living your life below our potential? If not, what actions are you ready to commit to taking to experience a greater measure of peace, worthiness, joy, happiness and abundance?

10. How would you show up different for yourself if you were able to maintain the mindset that you do have the power to make the change you want to experience in your life benefited you?

11. What would change in your life if you stopped waiting on other people to validate you, and decided that you are deserving of good things and started to take action inspired by this new belief about yourself?

12. What small steps can you begin to take today that will begin the practice of transforming your mind and disempowering self-talk so that you feel empowered to expand the vision you have of yourself and life and the courage of heart to create “what can be” while leaning on the wisdom and guidance of your divine Source?


Last Words


One of the most powerful benefits of regular self inquiry is that it helps you to tune into the truth of what you are feeling and thinking about your present life. Too often, we spend ourselves dry caring and doing for others that we forget that we need to make sure our cup needs to be full in order to continue to contribute to others and add value to our organizations in ways that do not diminish our wellbeing.


Self inquiry requires us to pause and get off the hamster wheel. It challenges us to become intentional towards the life that we want to experience instead of accepting the status quo.


Self inquiry reconnects us to a sense of our personal power and our answers to questions can often serve as the catalyst to igniting a new outlook, new approach and new level of aliveness in our life.


The questions in this article asks you to determine if you are okay with just surviving life or if you are ready to do what it takes to thrive in life.


The questions in this article asks you to identify if your cup is full or it's low on energy because you have overextended yourself.


The questions in this article helps you to identify where you are stuck and how important it is for you to cultivate a new and much more expansive vision of who you are and who you can become.


Most important, the questions in this article helps you to identify the stories and emotional interpretations of personal experiences that are diminishing your clarity, courage and confidence. Changing your story ignites the power within you to cast a new vision of possibility and identify the actions you need to take to move forward with a greater joy, happiness and success.


It’s Your Move. Aspire Higher.

Jackie B



You can receive the support, training, guidance and accountability you need on a consistent basis to level up your leadership effectiveness to achieve your next level leadership aspirations in Jackie's monthly mastermind program BraveHeart Women Leaders Success Alliance.

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