8 Power Moves for Boosting Your Emotional Energy
Updated: May 31, 2020
Everything in life requires energy. Millions of people are experiencing an emotional energy crisis.
Everything in life requires energy. So, you’re not alone in wanting more energy. Millions of people are experiencing an emotional energy crisis. Every day they confess things like, “I feel so tired”, “I feel older than I am”, “I barely have enough energy to do what I need to do on an everyday basis”, and “I could get a lot more done, if only I had more energy”. Emotional energy fuels our inner-drive to overcome setbacks, set goals to experience better and enjoy our life.
Perhaps you made the effort to boost your energy level by increasing your physical energy and found that the pop of physical energy isn’t enough. “You’re not just your body”, says Mira Kirshenbaum, author of The Emotional Energy Factor: The Secrets High Energy People Use to Beat Emotional Fatigue. “You are a whole person. The emotional side of you is just as important as your body”. “So it makes sense, she says, there’s another energy source. It’s emotional energy."
Kirshenbaum defines emotional energy as “an aliveness of the mind, a happiness of the heart and a spirit filled with hope. Despite the inevitable heartache, frustrations, disappointments and adversity that we experience in life, some people are able to maintain the emotional energy to keep pressing through the challenges and achieve goals that enhance their well-being.
Take the story of Laura Hillenbrand who wrote the best-seller, Seabiscuit while suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome. Kirshenbaum writes about Hillenbrand, “It was so bad that in interviews, she talked about my broken body.” Hillenbrand on her best days is reported as having to drag herself out of bed to write on her computer from one to two hours. In the face of this profound physical disability, Hillenbrand, according to Kirshenbaum, was able to remain focus on writing Seabiscuit because she maintained emotional energy that connected her to a purpose bigger than herself. The book sheds light on Seabiscuit, the small Thoroughbred that had an inauspicious start to racing but became an unlikely champion and symbol of hope for Americans during the Great Depression. In taking on this painstaking task, Hillenbrand embodied the heart of a champion in the face of daunting odds and physical challenges.
Emotional energy empowers you to sustain the physical and emotional energy necessary to take on the challenges and maintain the courage to live your life on purpose. Kirshenbaum asserts, “It is the single biggest difference between people who get what they want and people who don’t."
8 Power Moves for Boosting Your Emotional Energy
1. Nourish Your Spiritual Growth & Development
According to Dr.Phil.com, Research indicates tangible advantages to a connection with the spiritual word. People with faith are most likely to:
Live longer and are less likely to have a heart attack.
Have less anxiety and stress in their life.
Experience less depression and more contentment.
Suffer less physical pain.
Are less likely to panic under pressure.
Children of parents who are involved in religious faith are less likely to get involved with drugs and underage sex.
Individuals who consistently practice their religious faith are resilient, manage stress and experience a greater sense of well-being because of a belief that God wants them to experience His goodness in the land of the living.
2. Face Your Truths
God’s path to pure joy is spelled out in James 1:2-4. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (NIV)
Look at the verse again. It doesn’t indicate that the path to pure joy is NOT having problems - the path to God’s pure joy is ours when we face our problems. Many people live with the false belief that if they had less problems, or if they had no problems—that is the path to pure joy. But this clearly contradicts the simple truth of God’s word.
Facing the truth of your reality releases you from emotional burdens that come with denial and resistance to the facts. Walking by faith encourages us to respond to life with a spirit of love, power, and a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
3. Manage How You Communicate in Relationships
One of the greatest blessings and frustrations in our lives comes in the form of our relationships. When you approach conversations in relationships with a spirit of love, power and a sound mind, you help to create an emotional safe zone for open and honest dialogue to occur.
When individuals feel they can trust a person, express their feelings in an appropriate manner and be accepted, they are much more open in their communication which increases understanding in a relationship. Everyone wants to feel that they are seen and heard. Regardless of whether you agree with everything someone says, it is important that that you acknowledge and respect the feelings of others. Even, if you both agree to disagree on a topic.
4. Think About What You Think About
If you don’t manage it, negative self-talk will play havoc on your life. The endless stream of your mind chatter can be directed with smart thinking habits that enhance your smarts and well-being. When you “fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely and admirable (Phil 4:8-9 NLT), your thoughts will be engaged in the process of elevating your way of thinking and upgrading your way of life.
5. Nurture a Heart Attitude of Gratitude
Are you so caught up with comparing your life to other people's lives that you’ve lost sight of the blessings that abound in your life, right now, today? If so, stop it. No matter how much you compare yourself and your life to others, you can only be you and live your life. Jealousy and envy are dangerous to your spiritual development and physical well-being.
Nurturing a heart attitude of gratitude demonstrates your appreciation of what is good right now in your life. Maybe things aren’t the way that you want, but that is still no reason for you to not be thankful for the grace of God that has been shown towards you. And if you think you haven’t experienced God’s grace, consider all the times during your life in which a bad situation could have been much worse and you were spared from experiencing the worst scenario. That was God’s grace.
6. Embrace Life with a “YES” Attitude
Are you sitting on the sidelines living your life vicariously through the lives of others? Why? What are you afraid of? Identify the fear that’s keeping you from answering the calling in your soul. You can ignore it but it won’t go away.
The seeds of greatness dwelling in your potential are needed by someone. But, you’ll never know that if you allow fear, past pain, disappointments, etc… to keep you from stepping out of your comfort zone. People who are highly successful in life learn that they have to manage temporary feelings of discomfort to achieve their highest aspirations. Seek the wisdom and guidance of Spirit as to how you can use your gifts to bless your life and the lives of others. Acknowledge God in all that you do and trust that wherever your path leads, the power of Heaven backs you up. Having something that fuels your passion for life will certainly boost your emotional energy.
7. Embrace the Freedom of “NO”
As a result of overscheduling your commitments, you live life feeling overwhelmed and frazzled. You have to take authority in your life and decide to not be the go-to person all the time to live a more balanced lifestyle. Embracing the freedom that comes with saying “NO” to requests that deplete you of emotional energy allows you to access more positive emotional energy. As Marcus Buckingham writes in Live Your Strongest Life, “Trying to be all things to all people, all the time is a fool’s game that will in the end drain mind, body & spirit.”
8. Embrace the Process of Letting Go Emotional Pain
I know it isn’t easy to move beyond emotional pain connected to a soul-wrenching experience. The tug-of-war that occurs in your mind and emotions can seem to have you tossed one way today, and tossed another way tomorrow. This emotional rollercoaster is one of the reasons so many people feel stuck in a rut and unable to embrace life with a “YES” attitude.
At some point, you have to draw a line in the sand and say to yourself, “enough is enough”. Embrace this three-step process for letting go of emotional pain:
Acknowledge the truth of how you feel. Stop denying what you feel. What you resist will persist.
Express the truth of how you feel, verbally with someone you trust or in a journal. Journaling can be very therapeutic as it provides a channel to express your thoughts and emotions in a safe space and builds your self-awareness.
Releasing or letting go of emotional pain requires that you acknowledge and accept the truth of how you feel AND the reality of an experience. Much of the internal turmoil we experience from not-so-good experiences is a result of our resistance to the reality of what is. Once you reach a mental and emotional state in which you are willing to accept the truth, you will begin to release and let go of emotional pain. If you’ve been constantly struggling in this area, perhaps you need to speak to a professional counselor who can help you move beyond your pain.
You are stronger than you think. And you’ll never know it until you begin this process and witness the reservoir of strength that dwells in your spirit.
Boosting your emotional energy will make you feel better about yourself and life. It increases your passion and fuels your perseverance to make the changes needed to live your best life.
Author Bio: Jackie Capers Brown built her award-winning leadership career going from earning minimum wage to becoming a leader of high-performance teams and executive leader of several successful 7 figure businesses during her 20-year corporate career. Today, she's the CEO of Slay Your Greatness Academy, an education company that specializes in providing personal growth and leadership development training. Jackie delivers inspiring and motivational presentations as a keynote speaker and trainer. She is the author of four books, including her latest, Find Your Brave. She is the founder of Level Up Success Academy, the online learning and development platform where she offers courses and leadership programs.